Reuniting Families

Mutual Consent Voluntary Registry

What is the Mutual Consent Voluntary Registry?

The Mutual Consent Voluntary Registry is a service established by the DHS for adult adoptees and individuals separated from birth family members through termination of parental rights proceedings but not adopted. It allows these individuals and their birth family relatives to indicate their willingness to have their identities and whereabouts disclosed to one another. If an adoptee and one of his birth family members both register, a match between the adoptee and any birth family member can result in a reunion. The same applies to individuals and their relatives separated by a termination of parental rights proceeding.

What can it do for me?

You may register if you or a relative were placed for adoption in Oklahoma. You may also register if you were separated from birth family members as a result of termination of parental rights proceedings in Oklahoma. If the person you are seeking has also registered with the Mutual Consent Voluntary Registry, you may have access to your relative’s name, address and other identifying information if all agree. You can make contact at your own discretion.

What if I don’t want to be found?

The registry is totally voluntary and you may withdraw your willingness to be reunited with birth family members at any point. DHS will protect your privacy if you choose not to have contact with birth family members.

Will DHS help me with a reunion?

DHS can act as a third party intermediary if you do not wish to arrange the reunion yourself. You need to specify in a notarized registry affidavit whether or not DHS can release your name, address or phone number, and to which relatives.

Who may register?

Any person 18 years or older who was adopted in Oklahoma and their birth relatives. Also, any person 18 years or older who was separated from birth family members by termination of parental rights proceedings in Oklahoma.

Will DHS help me search for my relatives?

Yes. DHS has a Confidential Intermediary Search program that provides search services for eligible persons to locate their birth relatives. There is a $400 fee for the first search and a $200 fee for each additional search. You must register on the Mutual Consent Voluntary Registry six months before requesting a search. The person who is the subject of the search must sign an agreement that they wish to be found. If they do not wish to be found, their identity will not be disclosed. There is no refund for the search fee, regardless of the outcome of the search.

How do I get on the Registry?

Complete the Oklahoma Mutual Consent Voluntary Registry form. It must be notarized before you mail it. You must submit one of the following as proof of your identity:

  • A photo copy of your current driver’s license
  • A photo copy of your birth certificate
  • A photo copy of your social security card

If you move, it is essential that you notify us of your new address and phone number so we can notify you if a relative contacts DHS.

Is there a cost to be on the Mutual Consent Voluntary Registry?

Yes. There is a $20 registration fee. The fee must be included with your completed, notarized Oklahoma Mutual Consent Voluntary Registry form.

Pay by check or money order only and make either payable to the Oklahoma Department of Human Services Reunion Registry.

Where do I write?

Send your letter to:

Oklahoma Department of Human Services Child Welfare Services Adoption Section PO Box 25352
Oklahoma City, OK 73125

If you have any questions you may call the DHS Adoption Section at 405-521-2475 or your local DHS adoption specialist.

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